Do you get angry? We all do, it’s human. If you are hard on yourself for your anger, or want to find ways of relating to your anger differently, tune into this episode with Dr Russell Kolts.
Dr. Russell Kolts is a clinical psychologist and Professor at Eastern Washington University, USA. He has worked with anger issues in combat veterans, sexual assault survivors, children and adolescents, and the developmentally disabled.
In addition to teaching at the university, Dr Kolts runs a practice focused upon mindfulness and the purposeful cultivation of compassion in the Buddhist tradition. He has volunteered at a local state prison where he has worked with prisoners in addressing anger using meditation and the cultivation of compassion.
We cover:
5:30 Compassion focused therapy
6:25 Expressing anger towards people we love
7:57 The compassionate approach to anger
10:10 Avoidance of our problems
12:41 Working with his own anger
13:40 Modelling to our children
15:48 Motivation for change
16:37 Letting go of shame
17:49 Shame vs guilt
18:48 Self-compassion
19:22 The challenge of asking for help
19:50 Why seek a therapist
21:25 Anger directed inwards
22:40 Anger as a secondary emotion
25:05 Compassion towards others
26:27 Russell’s take away for you
Book – The Compassionate Mind Guide to Managing your Anger
Russell’s TED talk: Anger, Compassion, and What It Means To Be Strong | Russell Kolts | TEDxOlympia – YouTube
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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media
