Be connected in your relationship, with Dr Tracy Dalgleish

In this week’s conversation I talk to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish about how our attachment styles affect our relationship dynamics, and how we can change the patterns we fall into with our partner.

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a Clinical Psychologist and couples therapist who helps individuals and couples navigate the challenges we all face in our relationships and within ourselves to create a more meaningful life through therapy, wellness seminars, and her work outside of the therapy room. For over 15 years, Dr. Dalgleish has provided direct clinical services as well as researching, writing, and speaking about relationships. She provides psychological assessments, diagnosis, and individual and couple therapy for a variety of difficulties, including depression, anxiety, postpartum difficulties, stress and burnout, and relationship difficulties. 

We talk about:

5:59 Interdependence

9:26 The 4 S’s of social attachment – safety, security, seen and soothed

13:05 Turn taking in relationships

15:14 Incompatibility in attachment styles

19:50 Secure attachment

20:16 Anxious attachment

20:40 Avoidant attachment

21:39 Fearful or disorganised attachment

25:58 Being on the same team, when you’re differently ‘flammable’

29:40 Common cycles couples all into and how to break them

32:54 Toxic masculinity and emotional expression

36:48 Perfectionism and unrealistic expectations

39:52 Pervasive myths about relationships

41:00 When to go your separate ways

46:17 Tolerating relationship calibrations

49:03 How Dr Tracy pauses and plays

52:25 Dr Tracy’s takeaway for you


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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media



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Michaela Thomas
Michaela Thomas

Senior Clinical Psychologist & CBT Psychotherapist

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