Achievement, self-worth and rigid rules

Achievement, self-worth and rigid rules

What do you base your self-worth on?

If your self-worth is based on achievement, you’ll feel good about yourself as long as you are achieving. If you fail, your self-esteem will plummet.

You may think of yourself as confident in one area of your life, and not in others.

What then happens when you make a mistake in that area?

Inevitably, you will. Your self-esteem and confidence will then come tumbling down like a house of cards, as you have built it on you always achieving high standards and reaching your goals.

In this brief solo episode, I discuss what happens when you attach your self-worth to your achievements, and how following rigid rules sets you up for disappointment.

If you need a self-compassionate break, telling yourself how hard it is sometimes and giving yourself some kindness instead of criticism around a mistake, then you can download a free 4min guided meditation audio on www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/break

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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media

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Michaela Thomas
Michaela Thomas

Senior Clinical Psychologist & CBT Psychotherapist

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