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Mum guilt vs mum shame, with Dr Tess Browne

perfectionism and burnout

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You want to be the best version of yourself for your kids.

You want to do parenting “right.”

But nobody told you about the pressure, the invisible comparisons, or the harsh self-talk that creeps in at the end of a long day.

And no one ever told you it doesn’t have to be this way.

In today’s episode, Michaela is joined by her friend and fellow clinical psychologist Dr. Tess Browne to get real about:

  • The difference between mum guilt and mum shame 
  • How comparison, social media trends (hello, “18 summers”!), and well-meaning advice can trigger self-doubt and parental anxiety
  • Why imperfect parenting is not only OK, but essential 
  • How compassion for yourself leads to real, positive changes (not more self-criticism)
  • The pressure of summer holidays, screen time debates, and the “shoulds” that make us second-guess our choices
  • Releasing the myth of the “perfect parent” and giving yourself permission to just be good enough

Because you, your kids, and your messy beautiful life all deserve it.

Connect with Dr. Tess Browne:

Website: www.drtessbrowne.com 

Instagram: @drtessbrowne

Upcoming Autumn Retreat: Day retreat near Cambridge, 4th October (see Tess’s website for details)

Connect with Michaela:

Instagram: @the_thomas_connection

If this episode resonated, follow the podcast so you don’t miss future episodes on compassion, neurodivergence, and working mum life — and please share it with a friend who needs a reminder that “good enough” really is enough.

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Michaela Thomas
Michaela Thomas

Senior Clinical Psychologist & CBT Psychotherapist

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