Festive perfectionism is linked with that critical little voice that tells you everything must be flawless during the holiday season. It’s the pressure to have the perfect tree, the most delicious baked goods, and the most creative crafts. But let’s be honest, is that what the festive season is truly about?
Letting Go of the Pressure
This holiday season, I invite you to join me in shedding the pressure of perfection. It’s about embracing the joy and connection found in imperfection. Remember, Christmas and other festive seasons are about making memories, being close to our loved ones, and yes, resting!
The Crippling Pattern of Festive Perfectionism
In my practice, and even among friends, I’ve noticed a growing trend of comparisonitis during the holidays. This comparison of the perfect Christmas wasn’t a part of my childhood memories, and I bet it wasn’t a part of yours either. It’s essential to recollect the simple joys – playing with new toys in our pyjamas, and enjoying the ‘not doing very much’ moments.
Magic in the Mundane
The true magic of Christmas doesn’t lie in grand gestures but in the ordinary, everyday moments. It’s in the imperfectly decorated tree, the lopsided gingerbread house, and the laughter shared over a batch of oddly shaped cookies.
Areas to Embrace Imperfection:
- Crafts: Let your children’s creativity flow. Accept their efforts, however wonky they may be.
- Baking: Embrace the mess and the unexpected outcomes. Sometimes, the most memorable moments come from laughing over collapsed gingerbread houses!
- Decorating the Tree: Resist the urge to rearrange. Enjoy the process and the unique look your children bring to the tree – even if you have to tolerate it, rather than enjoy it.
- Activities and Days Out: Remember, you don’t have to do it all. Choose activities that bring joy without overwhelming you or your budget.
Making Wise Choices
This holiday, ask yourself: does striving for perfection in every detail serve me, or does it overwhelm me? Choose to go above and beyond in just one area that brings you joy, and give yourself permission to take shortcuts or skip others altogether.
Looking Ahead
In the next episode of “Pause Purpose Play,” we will explore coping with feelings of disconnection and sadness during the festive season. It’s an important conversation, especially for those with challenging childhood memories or traumatic experiences around Christmas.
I encourage you to reflect on what truly matters this holiday season. Let go of the need to perfect everything and focus on what brings you genuine connection.
Don’t forget to tune into the episode of Pause Purpose Play, “Festive Perfectionism – Finding Joy in the Imperfections,” for more insights and tips. Wishing you a holiday season filled with joy, love, and wonderfully imperfect moments!
